Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a 25-year-old bi girl in the Southwest, and I’ve been with the same hetero guy for almost three years. I miss being with women. We made an attempt at being monogamish, but feelings were hurt and we went back to monogamy. He still parties like he’s in ...

Dear Dan: I’m a lady considering taking on a foot fetishist as a slave. He would do chores around my house, including cleaning and...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight 24-year-old female, and I just recently lost my virginity. I’ve had sex only three times (not with a monogamous partner) and have found each time to be incredibly painful — even when the guy’s just using his fingers. I’ve always been ...

Dear Dan: I have a secret: For the past three months, I’ve been attending a local Jacks club (a men-only masturbation event). As someone...

Dear Dan: I'm a 20-something more-or-less lesbian in an East Coast city. I'm primarily into women, and I'm only interested in relationships with women,...

Dear Dan: I am currently separated. A few months after I moved out, my estranged wife found out that I cheated on her before...

Dear Dan: I’m a kinky single woman who keeps attracting the wrong men for me — specifically, submissive guys into face-sitting. I’m submissive myself,...

Dear Dan: I’m a woman in my early 30s having sex with a guy in his early 20s. The sex is more than casual,...

Dear Dan: My boyfriend of six months tied me up for the first time a month ago. He didn’t know what he was doing, and I didn’t get turned on because it hurt. I got him two sessions with a professional bondage top as a gift. I was the “model,” and I was very turned on...

Dear Dan: I am at a loss. I am devastated. I just found out my husband has been sexting with another woman. As if...

Dear Dan: I’ve always been excited by BDSM but I’ve only minimally explored this side of myself until very recently. I’m a straight woman...

Dear Dan: I had an odd bit of awkwardness over the holidays. One of my wife’s nephews recently came out as gay, which is no problem at all for us, but it created friction in his immediate family. We were at a big extended-family dinner together, and after we sat ...