Author: Dan Savage

I’m frustrated. I’m transmasc and use silicone “attachments.” My partner is assigned male at birth. Also relevant: We have very old hardwood floors, non-laminated.  For years, I have expressed frustrations...

Is it possible to be in mourning for a fantasy that will never be fulfilled? I’m a 44-year-old cis het man, and since hitting puberty I’ve fantasized about sleeping with...

I was chatting with a couple of friends and the topic turned to clearing out a loved one’s belongings after they’ve passed away and some of the interesting, strange or...

I’m a 33-year-old gay man emailing you because I have a kink that I enjoy but have always felt ashamed about. My kink is called “wet and messy” (WAM) and...

1. I’m 53-year-old straight woman. I’ve been talking with a guy online for three years — text, voice, video. I am in love with him. He is my daily companion and...

I’m a cis gay man in Canada. Other than my supportive nonbinary partner of five years and a few close friends, most people in my life don’t know that I’m...

I’ve been married for two years, and my wife just found out that I subscribed to a few OnlyFans accounts. She considers this cheating, which really surprised me. We have...

I was told you help women who feel shame about their orgasms. I’ve been in my relationship for five years and always had difficulty orgasming. About a year ago, I...

1. I’m a single cis gay man, and I’ve been going back and forth between wanting an open relationship or a throuple/quad when I start dating again. Do you have...

I’m involved with a guy who’s married and, yes, I’m a cliché and I know it. I don’t want him to leave his wife. I don’t even want to be...

Cis-het dude here in my 30s. I’ve had to spend several multi-month periods away from my wife over the last couple years for work. During the last long separation, I...

I have a history of dating men I’m not attracted to physically or emotionally. I always found it weirdly comforting to know my boyfriend was obsessed with me while I...

I’m at the point in my life where I’m a caregiver for my parents and my partner. It’s exhausting. I don’t have an open relationship with my partner, although I’d...

1. Best advice on dating without resorting to apps? Go places, do shit, meet people, fuck ‘em. 2. I’m about to visit a gay nudist resort for the first time,...

I’ve recently discovered that I am a panty sniffer. Though since I’m a gay man, maybe I’m a briefs breather? I discovered this when a fuck buddy left his shorts...

I am invited to a (gay) sex party. When invited for dinner, you bring a bottle of wine, but what is the proper etiquette for a sex party? Come showered...

A therapist suggested I might have “Relationship OCD.” While I haven’t been formally diagnosed, it rings true to me.  As soon as I get close to someone, I experience so...

1. How do you tell the difference between when someone says they love you in a platonic way and when someone says they love you in a romantic way?  Ask...