I’m a cis gay man in Canada. Other than my supportive nonbinary partner of five years and a few close friends, most people in my life don’t know that I’m a fetish content creator.
My stuff delves into the foot porn/macrophilia (love of giants) space. I don’t make enough to live off, but it’s a good side hustle. Plus, creating this content has resulted in meeting people with the same paraphilias and fantasies that I have.
I do all of this faceless. Save for the handful of times I’ve posted a glimpse of my face on my OnlyFans account, I’ve never shown my face on public platforms. I am self-employed, so I don’t have to worry about my boss finding out and firing me. But the “internet is forever,” and I fear repercussions if I change careers in the future. How best to navigate this?
— Fearful About Coming Employment Situation
“The internet is forever,” says Aaron, a 30-year-old gay man and BDSM content creator. “I see news articles every week about people losing their jobs after someone sent their OnlyFans account to their employer.” Which is why Aaron and his fiancé John, a 25-year-old gay man who shares his love of bondage, both wear masks in the videos they post on their joint JustForFans account.
“Until we live in a world where no one is shamed for their sexual interests and what they choose to do in our free time,” says Aaron, “showing our faces is not worth the risk to our careers or to our relationships with friends and family.”
The couple had been posting short bondage clips on Twitter before the pandemic hit and then — like a lot of people stuck at home during lockdowns — they decided to get on OnlyFans.
“At the time we figured, ‘Why not?’” says Aaron. “People seemed to like the stuff we enjoyed posting, and we might make some money doing what we love.” Aaron and John promised each other that they would stop if creating content started to overwhelm their sex life. “But four years later, we’re still sharing our kinky faceless content, and it has not only broadened our exploration in the world of kink, but — just like FACES — creating and sharing fetish content has led to many wonderful IRL connections.”
Some fans have begged Aaron and John to show their faces — a few have offered to pay them more if they remove their masks — but their reasons for remaining anonymous are sound, FACES, and may resonate with you.
“The extra money is a huge perk. We earn between two and three thousand dollars per month, but it’s not consistent money,” says Aaron. “For example, our original OnlyFans account was pretty short-lived. The company’s stance on porn changed one day, and suddenly all our content was banned for being ‘extreme.’ We’ve also been suspended from Twitter after posts got reported as ‘violence’ by people who don’t understand consensual BDSM.
“Unless FACES has some other means of support besides his foot porn and macrophilia content, putting his face out there for the sake of a little extra cash that may or may not be there next month probably isn’t worth it.”
I’m a 45-year-old gay man in a monogamous relationship. It’s the best relationship of my life. My partner and I have decided to become fluid bonded. (A term you probably haven’t heard in years!) However, he has a conditioned called hypospadias, and I’m wondering whether it is something we need to factor into our decision to have condom-free sex.
He has an extra hole near the head of his cock. It’s like he removed an enormous Prince Albert and the second hole remained open. It’s weirdly hot. But this second hole is very wide and uncovered by foreskin when he’s hard. I’m worried if he fucks me without a condom, he could be at heightened risk of infection. Or worse, could he get santorum in there?
— Hoping Our Love Endures
Your boyfriend’s condition — let’s not call it a disorder — puts him at greater risk of urinary tract and bladder infections, which occur when harmful bacteria creep up the urethra. Cis women, due to their shorter urethras, get UTIs and bladder infections more often than cis men.
With that bonus hole effectively shortening your boyfriend’s urethra, he should take the advice cis women are giving to prevent UTI/bladder infections: piss immediately after sex and maybe take a quick shower or an even quicker whore’s bath just to be on the safe side. As for santorum, i.e., “the frothy mix of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes the byproduct of anal sex,” douche before your boyfriend fucks your hole, HOLE, and you won’t get a visit from the disgraced (and disgraceful) senator.
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