Q: What websites should I use to post my foot photos to make $$$?
A: “I’ve done it — I’ve sold some foot pics — and there can be some money in it,” said Tyler Tanner, who has been creating, sharing and monetizing his adult content online for three years. “The best places to post foot photos would be OnlyFans and maybe Feetfinder. But whether you make money or not really depends on how good you are at marketing, just like any other product!” (Tyler Tanner is on Instagram and YouTube @TylerTannerX.)
Q: How to keep the sex life alive on the long, hard road to conceiving with infertility issues?
A: If you’ve been trying to conceive the old-fashioned way for a while, vaginal intercourse may feel like a chore. If you’ve moved on to fertility treatments like IUI or IVF, vaginal intercourse — at leas.3t for the moment — may symbolize your failure to conceive without assistance.
My advice: take PIV off the menu and enjoy other kinds of sex that symbolize (and provide) pure pleasure, i.e., oral sex, mutual masturbation, frottage, anal play (if you’re into that), etc.
Q: A friend drunkenly confessed having feelings for me. This person happens to be a close childhood friend’s ex-partner. We actually met through my childhood friend.
Part of me feels giddy about this confession (I like this person!), but I would never want to hurt or betray my childhood friend. Should I tell my childhood friend what happened and seek their blessing? Or should I distance myself from the friend that confessed feelings?
A. If you wanna date this person, you should date this person. You should give your close childhood friend a heads up — as a courtesy — but your childhood friend doesn’t have a veto and, if they’re a good friend, they won’t want a veto.
Q: His libido is much lower than mine. Could this work over the long term? I feel rejected.
A: If what you were feeling was deprived, opening the relationship up could resolve those feelings, since being with your partner wouldn’t mean being deprived of sex, allowing the relationship — barring other issues — to work over the long term.
But if what you’re feeling is rejected, opening things up is unlikely to make you feel better in the short or long term, since your primary partner wouldn’t be any more interested in fucking you than they already are.
Q: I’m a 35-year-old married transgender man. I started my transition when I was in my 20s.
I’ve recently started being open about being queer and being attracted to men. As I get older, I keep finding myself longing to fuck a cis man. At times it’s the only thought that gets me turned on.
I’ve been married for 10 years. My wife is 100% straight and pretty uptight. Open relationships and ENM is NOT an option. What do I do? Suck it up?
A: You have exactly three options: Honor the monogamous commitment you made (and suck it the fuck up), dishonor the monogamous commitment you made (and risk getting caught) or issue an ultimatum and demand some degree of openness (and risk getting divorced).
I wish there were another option — people write every day hoping that I’ll find a magical fourth option that doesn’t involve going without, becoming a cheating piece of shit or issuing painful ultimatums that could blow up their marriages — but there are only these three options.
Q: Just went exclusive with a new partner last night and this morning an old sexy fling hit me up. For fuck’s sake! What do I do?
A: If a single text message from a long-ago fling was all it took to make you regret going exclusive with your new partner last night… it was quite obviously a mistake to go exclusive with your new partner at all.
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