By Dan Savage - September 19,2024

Savage Love for Sept. 19, 2024: Fantasy frustrations

Sex and relationship advice from Dan Savage

By Dan Savage - September 12,2024

Savage Love: On the asexual spectrum

Sex and relationship advice from Dan Savage

By Dan Savage - September 5,2024

Savage Love: Good dick is worth the drive

Sex and love advice from Dan Savage for Sept. 5, 2024

By Dan Savage - August 29,2024

Savage Love: Is your sex life unsatisfying? Blow it up or suck it up

Sex and relationship advice for Aug. 29, 2024

By Dan Savage - August 22,2024

Savage Love: Wife’s sex drive is not a game

Sex and relationship advice from Dan Savage for Aug. 22, 2024

By Dan Savage - August 15,2024

Savage Love: The problem with modern men

Sex and love advice from Dan Savage for Aug. 15, 2024

By Dan Savage - August 8,2024

Savage Love: Junk removal unkindly requested

Settling down means settling for... but maybe not like this

By Dan Savage - August 1,2024

Savage Love: Sick in the head

My partner and I have been together for nearly thirty years. He was never as into sex/romance/intimacy as much as I was, and things got worse after he had a...

By Dan Savage - July 25,2024

Savage Love: Feed your kink, not your partner

For the longest time I’ve been into the feederism kink. It’s specifically the weight gain aspect of this kink — making myself or others bigger — that turns me on. I’ve...

By Dan Savage - July 18,2024

Savage Love: The gay-straight alliance

We’re a straight couple in our forties. We have some very dear friends who are younger and queer, and we sometimes find ourselves giving them life and relationship advice. We...

By Dan Savage - July 10,2024

Savage Love: Straight man, queer relationship

I am a 45-year-old married straight guy. After more than a decade of dipping in and out of the swinging lifestyle, my wife and I have decided to open up...

By Dan Savage - July 3,2024

Savage Love: That G.I. Joe kung-fu grip

From the beginning, my boyfriend has struggled to cum from PIV with me and has to jack himself off in order to climax. He also never cum from my blowjobs...

By Dan Savage - June 13,2024

Savage Love: June 13, 2024

1. I hooked up during a lunch break. While I was sucking on a dude’s titties with his encouragement, he started sucking on my neck. I shook him off as...

By Dan Savage - June 6,2024

Savage Love: June 6, 2024

1. Is pegging only for butts or can vaginas get pegged too? When the term originated in my column — when my readers selected “pegging” as the name for a...

By Dan Savage - May 30,2024

Savage Love: May 30, 2024

I’m frustrated. I’m transmasc and use silicone “attachments.” My partner is assigned male at birth. Also relevant: We have very old hardwood floors, non-laminated.  For years, I have expressed frustrations...

By Dan Savage - May 24,2024

Savage Love: May 23, 2024

Is it possible to be in mourning for a fantasy that will never be fulfilled? I’m a 44-year-old cis het man, and since hitting puberty I’ve fantasized about sleeping with...

By Dan Savage - May 16,2024

Savage Love: May 16, 2024

I was chatting with a couple of friends and the topic turned to clearing out a loved one’s belongings after they’ve passed away and some of the interesting, strange or...

By Dan Savage - May 9,2024

Savage Love: May 9, 2024

I’m a 33-year-old gay man emailing you because I have a kink that I enjoy but have always felt ashamed about. My kink is called “wet and messy” (WAM) and...