Author: Dan Savage

We’re a straight couple in our forties. We have some very dear friends who are younger and queer, and we sometimes find ourselves giving them life and relationship advice. We...

I am a 45-year-old married straight guy. After more than a decade of dipping in and out of the swinging lifestyle, my wife and I have decided to open up...

From the beginning, my boyfriend has struggled to cum from PIV with me and has to jack himself off in order to climax. He also never cum from my blowjobs...

I had a sexual experience that’s left me feeling shitty. Met another gay man on an apps, got wasted together at a leather bar, fucked at his place on a...

1. I hooked up during a lunch break. While I was sucking on a dude’s titties with his encouragement, he started sucking on my neck. I shook him off as...

1. Is pegging only for butts or can vaginas get pegged too? When the term originated in my column — when my readers selected “pegging” as the name for a...

I’m frustrated. I’m transmasc and use silicone “attachments.” My partner is assigned male at birth. Also relevant: We have very old hardwood floors, non-laminated.  For years, I have expressed frustrations...

Is it possible to be in mourning for a fantasy that will never be fulfilled? I’m a 44-year-old cis het man, and since hitting puberty I’ve fantasized about sleeping with...

I was chatting with a couple of friends and the topic turned to clearing out a loved one’s belongings after they’ve passed away and some of the interesting, strange or...

I’m a 33-year-old gay man emailing you because I have a kink that I enjoy but have always felt ashamed about. My kink is called “wet and messy” (WAM) and...

1. I’m 53-year-old straight woman. I’ve been talking with a guy online for three years — text, voice, video. I am in love with him. He is my daily companion and...

I’m a cis gay man in Canada. Other than my supportive nonbinary partner of five years and a few close friends, most people in my life don’t know that I’m...

I’ve been married for two years, and my wife just found out that I subscribed to a few OnlyFans accounts. She considers this cheating, which really surprised me. We have...

I was told you help women who feel shame about their orgasms. I’ve been in my relationship for five years and always had difficulty orgasming. About a year ago, I...

1. I’m a single cis gay man, and I’ve been going back and forth between wanting an open relationship or a throuple/quad when I start dating again. Do you have...

I’m involved with a guy who’s married and, yes, I’m a cliché and I know it. I don’t want him to leave his wife. I don’t even want to be...

Cis-het dude here in my 30s. I’ve had to spend several multi-month periods away from my wife over the last couple years for work. During the last long separation, I...

I have a history of dating men I’m not attracted to physically or emotionally. I always found it weirdly comforting to know my boyfriend was obsessed with me while I...