Savage Love
Kink monsters
Dear Dan: My husband and I (straight male/bi female couple) have been married 15 years. We are in our early 40s. When we met,...
To have and to cuck
Dear Dan: My ex-three-exes-ago was a cuckold. I swore I would never date another cuckold after he blew up at me for not cheating...
Power players
Dear Dan: Here's a non-COVID question for you: I’m a queer white female in a monogamish marriage. I vote left, I abhor hatred and...
Degrading games
Dear Dan: I am a pretty handsome gay (I have been told) and I am dating a gorgeous man. I am 34, and he...
I accidentally snooped, now should I confront my boyfriend about what...
Dear Dan: Gay, thirtysomething male in DC. My boyfriend of three years has been acting strange — not taking his antidepression meds, says he’s...
Do I tell him I’m intersex? Depends.
Dear Dan: I’m 28 years old and live in the Midwest. I’m intersex, but I identify as female. I am not out about being...
Panties; Jealous; Butt plugs; Porn
Dear Dan: A woman I follow on Instagram — whose account is open for all to follow — shares highly sexualized images of herself...
The epidemic of gay lonliness
Dear Dan: I’m a 40-something gay male. I’m single and cannot get a date or even a hookup. I’m short, overweight, average-looking and bald....
The proper etiquette for throwing someone out of an orgy
Dear Dan: I’m a queer girl living with a male partner. This weekend, we found ourselves in an after-hours club, made some new friends,...
Fingering It Out
Dear Dan: I’m a 36-year-old straight guy, happily married for more than 10 years, and a longtime reader. My wife and I are monogamous....
Put it in your spank bank, but don’t talk about it
Dear Dan:
I am quite the follower on social media — Facebook and Twitter in particular. I make no trolling comments, no #MAGA hashtags;...
47-year-old virgins, cross-dressing and parents’ sex lives
Dear Dan: I was involved with a straight man who enjoys cross-dressing and taking explicit photos. The problem is that the props he uses...
